Penne Gorgonzola = Life Lessons!

I know many of you may get uncomfortable when I goosh over my hubby but, if you knew what the Lord did in my life prior to my marriage you would know when I say, " I love and adore my husband" I truly mean that I love and adore my husband! What I mean is, I realize what a blessing he is and I love the Lord all that much more for placing such a wonderful Godly man in my life!

I know that Scott loves the Lord and since God IS LOVE, the love that Scott has for me is so beautiful!

So naturally, I see the Lords love and blessing in my life most through my marriage. 

(Not to mention... my husband is quiet the looker, he's so good looking) anyways, my point today is:

Last night we had a meeting that didnt work out and I did not have anything planned or ready for dinner so this kinda put a stretch on an already busy day. Scott called me out of the blue at lunch time and said "I'm gonna make you dinner tonight okay" so I said ok and asked if he needed me to do anything. He said "nope, Im taking care of all of it". I almost did a cartwheel I was so excited. Scott cooks for me sometimes and it is always a good meal but this time he was asking me if we had things like mushrooms (one of my favs) and gorgonzola cheese (i love cheese) so, I knew this was going to be a treat and that he was really trying to make it special so, later when we got home I got out of his way and let him have the kitchen (which is my sacred place by the way- so I thought) and he made the BEST penne gorgonzola I've ever had! It was sooooo yum! He did a great job! 

But when the feasting was over questions began to arise in me...... has he known how to cook these 8 years????? Has he been fooling me by asking questions like what is garlic powder? what is sea salt? hmmmmmm, have I been in the dark this whole time and hey!!!!!!! When I am out of town does he cook this way for himself? It was quite funny when I asked him if he has been hiding this all along. We got a good laugh out of  the thought of it!

Scott offers to cook alot, Im definitely going to take him up on it!

But after we ate and cleaned up the kitchen...I begin to feel the nudging of the Holy Spirit on my heart -> I learned a lesson through this meal and I want to share it with you!

As we were cleaning together I was thinking about what a great treat this was I was reminded of all the times Scotts offered to make dinner, or fold laundry (really anything around the house) but because I know he works so hard I've always felt I needed to do it. Afterall, I only work part time right! If thats not enough then my pride and my ego are sure to get in the way....and on top of the pride and ego is the the thought of those ridiculous traditional roles that we are told we are suppose to fall into (yeah, you know the ones) as these things raced in my thoughts I also remembered all the times I said no to him, all the times I said no to such a great night, I robbed myself of blessings! I probably robbed him of a blessing as well- by not allowing him to show me love in this way and take care of me and help me but, I said no. So in the end I would cook, fold laundry- run an errand myself and I probably did it frustrated, tired and probably even complaining under my breath the whole time. How hard I've made these things on myself when i didn't HAVE TO, I CHOSE TO!

Ladies, let your husbands help you- so what if your husband doesn't put the forks and spoons where you would. And who really cares if the bathroom towels are not folded like you would fold them or if the socks and undies are in the wrong drawer. (Think about your proirities here) Marriage is about team work -> Don't be a ball hog! Sometimes we women like to be martyrs. We love to let others know how much we do and how much we suffer for those we love! We think it makes us a better mom or a better wife! Come on.....

Don't go there! God has blessed you with an amazing family! Don't carry your burdens alone.

If you do go there, you will end up robbing yourself and others of a great blessing! Not only a blessing of some saved time but a blessing of your husband having pride and a sense of value and worth at home too! Why do you think so many men are prone to being work-a-holics? Because they have value and a sense of worth and identity at work. 

Now ask yourself, how does he feel at home? Worthless, not important? Think about it ladies - your husbands a gift from the Lord- he gave them to you because he trusts you with them and also remember, if there are areas you need to work on.... God is faithful and through him ALL things ARE possible! We all want them to be successful at work.... well ladies, i challenge you to position your husband for success at home too! 

I could tell Scott took joy in making this meal for me :) It meant a lot to me and I enjoyed it too!

Have a wonderfully blessed day everyone!

-Missa